Bystander Intervention 101 | #HowWillWeRespond | Violence Against Women

13 days ago
See Something. Don't Freeze. Do something. The next time you see someone in trouble, here's how you can help. Dr. Divya Kannan breaks down Bystander ...

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Hello there. My name is Akshay.
Welcome to Curley Street.
What we do is make films and noise
about all that is uncomfortable
awkward
and complex about being human.
As you know we've dedicated this month
to Bystander Intervention.
I know that's a term that's new to India
and it sounds kind of intimidating and complex.
But at its heart It's super simple .
So before I call on the expert
let me give you my layman's
understanding of what it is.
Essentially what it means is if you see
someone in distress
don't do nothing.
That's it. It's the bare minimum.
I have the pleasure of introducing our
expert Dr. Divya Kannan.
Bystander Intervention is largely a
violence prevention strategy
that focuses on the community doing something
when you witness someone in distress
or when you witness a situation that
seems a little concerning to you.
Of course these situations are going to vary.
Any time we try to do a Bystander
Intervention, it is situational.
But the idea behind it is that it builds
our resources and
our capacities to act and have options to respond
when someone is in need of help.
I think sometimes people think of it as
those really dangerous or threatening
situations where someone might be
assaulted on the street.
But they're also everyday situations that
we are faced with.
Just to give you an example.
This is from a long time ago.
I was on a bus in Bombay,
There was a girl sitting across from me.
She just seemed uncomfortable.
The person sitting next to her
I don't exactly know what he was doing
but she seemed uncomfortable.
And I thought for a minute, what can I do ?
What are my options?
Because I noticed this event.
Can I talk to the bus conductor or the bus driver?
What I ended up doing was just moving
one seat over and asking her
if she wanted to sit next to me.
So that's just an everyday example of
what Bystander Intervention can be.
You're not really supposed to confront an aggressor
or be hostile in any way.
Just to give you an example.
I was with my friends at a bar
a couple of weeks ago in Bangalore.
I noticed this younger girl.
She probably had a lot to drink.
She didn't seem very sure of herself
or her surroundings.
But for some reason I didn't feel quite
safe going up to her
based on who she was with.
I didn't want to take that risk.
I just went to the bartender and said
"Where's your manager?"
"Can someone just take a look at that situation?"
In observing that it looked like the
manager came over and found her friend.
One of her female friends.
I think they left soon.
So I do always consider my personal safety
Before I act.
I think about other options for me to act
in a more indirect way
The goal of Bystander Intervention is to
interrupt the moment as it's occurring.
Sometimes that's not always possible.
Sometimes we might have a delayed reaction
where something is already occurred.
But we can go in and check in with the
person and just say
"Are you okay?"
"Do you need to use my phone? Do you
need transportation?"
But the goal is not so much about what
happened in the past
or what's going to happen in the future.
It's about in the moment what we've witnessed.
How can we respond?
Don't do nothing
We often might be kind of in a moment of
panic when something happens
and not know how to respond and freeze.
What I found helpful is to
know what the local resources are.
Just knowing even when you're traveling.
What are your emergency contacts? What
are the local resources?
We have such a wealth of NGOs and organisations here
that can reach out to us if we know how
to get in touch with them.
There are a lot of resources online. There are worldwide
organizations that stand behind Bystander Intervention.
Google Scholar is a great place to go for research on
Bystander intervention.
I'm happy to be a resource as well
You can send me a question if you have one about Bystander Intervention.
We can also collaborate to organize a
workshop if that's something you'd be interested in
I'm really here to help with that.
So please contact me if you have any questions about it.
A big big thank you to Dr. Divya for all that information.
I found it profoundly helpful. I hope you guys did too.
I know the concept of Bystander Intervention is at the end of the day a choice.
It is a bit of a subjective concept, but at it's core
we do believe it's about caring about other people.
That's something that Curley Street feels very strongly about.
Those are the kind of conversations
you can expect to hear from us.
Follow us this month because we're going to be talking a lot more about Bystander Intervention.
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